Has your Tinder bio been copied?
Most people copy online dating profile examples
The temptation is huge. You look at your friend's Tinder profiles or Bumble pictures and they’re rocking a 10… funny bio, hot body, too many matches etc. We get it.
And we know we can’t copy and paste their dating profile, their abs, tattoos or dimples, but there are a few things we can take inspiration from.
Most want a bio that can subvert expectations in a clever way, but all too often this culminates in an overly confident pun or a misdirecting joke.
Good Tinder bios don’t need to fib
Technically the odds of a joke in a bio succeeding are just as subjective as the joke itself, if the right person reads the right stuff they’ll show way more interest, but either way it’s going to split your chances.
When it comes to photos the easiest cheat sheet is surely the statistics. A Tinder study from 2018 that analysed approximately 12,000 photos from its users that were aged 18-40 suggested some nice guiding head starts:
Sports & travelling pictures are among the highest right swipes
Hats and sunglasses don’t work as well
Pictures of animals show depth of character
But, and this is a big but, copying other profiles' best bits is usually a very bad idea. And we don’t need much evidence to prove that.
Attraction has its own copyright
Every element of a profile that you copy is a blueprint you can’t replicate in real life - including the undervalued and complicated art of conversation.
Straying too far from your real skills in written and verbal dialect on your dating profile can result in awesome receptive messaging but frustrating and hurtful first dates for both parties.
What about white lies? I mean this is dating after all. Fibbing about hitting the gym hard every morning for years won’t really fly unless it shows on you, but not giving the whole truth about something more personal does have some more wiggle room.
Can’t cook to save your life? Maybe you prefer eating out than eating in :) no job right now? Maybe you’re excited about the new career you’re planning.
Fake dating profile pictures
We should say straight away that using someone else's pictures is a practice that is likely to get you banned pretty quickly.
It also has no follow up, right? I mean the whole catfish nonsense might get you liked in text form but they’ll have to see you sometime. Also stick to pictures that don’t date back past a year.
The algorithms of some of the most popular apps have ways to detect disingenuous profiles. Again there is no winner here, copying other people has no happy ending.
Do most people lie on dating apps?
There are fibs and then there are extremes. If you have a wooden leg or glass eye this probably should be in your online dating profile. Surprises and first dates tend to be a bad combination.
If you’re super conscious of something that you feel might be misunderstood or too big a factor for you to get matches then include it in the text rather than the pictures, but make sure it's there.
It’s really hard to predetermine the reactions people will have to what you see as your ‘worst bits’ but we know that the reactions might be worsened if you seem like you’ve hidden it.
And something like having braces probably isn't the stop sign you think it is, the angst can be relieved before a date if you have added at least one picture of them.
Got only one tooth left? well you know what, I would still write that in the bio, surprising someone on a date will be more jarring for most people.
Keep some of these things in mind, and you’ll figure the rest out.
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